by Ollie Aplin — 2 min read
It's easy to plod through life thinking that everyone else is better than you. Happier, healthier, richer. It's easy to believe that what you see on Instagram is real and that ultimately you suck at life. But is this true, and are you being fair to yourself? Chances are, probably not.
In this article, I will explain why telling yourself that you're awesome is way more powerful than hearing it from someone else. And what you can do on a day-to-day basis to keep the belief in yourself up and ultimately feel more confident in everything you do.
The first thing you need to recognise is that seeking external validation of who you are can be addictive and exhausting. When we spend our days looking for other people, often strangers, to confirm how awesome we are, it's easy to forget that the most powerful validation comes from within.
"We are being pitted against each other to achieve these empty highs, all in the quest to claim the title of the most' picture perfect' life."
Social media has rewired our brains to get a hefty dose of endorphins when someone likes our post, sends us a text, or even emails us. While we're quick to moan that we get too many emails, we'd feel even worse if there were no emails at all.
And if that wasn't messed up enough, we are being pitted against each other to achieve these empty highs, all in the quest to claim the title of the most' picture perfect' life. Is it any wonder this leads to feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, and unhappiness?
So stop right now and listen – you're already awesome. You don't need anyone to confirm what you already know. And this is how you're going to prove it to yourself.
So how do you go about telling yourself you're awesome without sounding like you're Patrick Bateman? Well, there's one really simple yet powerful exercise you can do.
Create a list of 25 things that make you great. Actually, not just great, awesome. Grab a pen and some paper (no phones here, please) and write down the numbers first — it'll make it easier.
How you feel about creating this list will determine how long it takes you to complete it. It's okay if it takes you a few minutes or a few days. Just make sure you continue to work towards reaching 25.
Once your list is complete, take the time to read each quality out loud to yourself. Let each one sink in, and recognise how hearing it makes you feel. It's only by recognising these qualities in ourselves that we can begin to block out the nonsense and become our own number one fan.
Keep this list, and add to it every time you think of something that makes you awesome. And don't stop at 25. Use this list as something you can refer back to when the 'double-tap life is getting a bit much.