by Ollie Aplin — 5 min read
You don’t need to read 8,000 self-help books and watch 100 hours of YouTube videos to learn what you already know – that you’re not just okay, you’re bloody awesome.
It’s easy to plod through life thinking that everyone else is better than you. Happier, healthier and richer. It’s easy to believe that what you see on Instagram is real. And that ultimately you suck at life. But is this true and are you being fair to yourself? Chances are, probably not.
In this article, I’m going to explain why telling yourself that you’re awesome is way more powerful than hearing it from someone else. And what you can do on a day-to-day basis to keep the belief in yourself up and to ultimately feel more confident in everything you do.
The first thing you need to recognise is that seeking external validation of who you are can be addictive and exhausting. When we spend our days looking for other people, often strangers, to confirm how awesome we are, it’s easy to forget that the most powerful validation comes from within.
The rise in social media has rewired our brains to get a nice big dose of endorphins when someone likes our post, sends us a text or even just emails us. And while we’re quick to moan that we get too many emails, we’d feel even worse if there were no emails at all.
And if that wasn’t messed up enough, we are being pitted against each other to achieve these empty highs, all in the quest to claim the title of the most ‘picture perfect’ life. Is it any wonder this leads to feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, and unhappiness?
So stop right now and listen – you’re already awesome, you don’t need anyone to confirm what you already know. And this is how you’re going to prove it to yourself.
"BE FEARLESS, BE BRAVE, BE BOLD. LOVE YOURSELF"
Okay, so how do you go about telling yourself you’re awesome without sounding like you’re Patrick Bateman? Well, there’s one really simple, yet powerful exercise you can do.
You're going to create a list of 25 things that make you great. Actually not just great, awesome. Grab yourself a pen and some paper (no phones here please) write down the numbers first — it’ll make it easier.
Now, depending on how you feel about creating this list may determine how long it takes you to do. It’s okay if it takes you a few minutes or a few days, just make sure you get to that 25.
Once your list is complete, take the time to read each quality out loud to yourself. Let each one really sink in, recognising how each makes you feel. It’s only by recognising these qualities in ourselves that we can begin to block out the nonsense and become our own number one fan.
Keep this list, and add to it every time you think of something that makes you awesome. And don’t stop at 25, use this list as something you can refer back to when the ‘double tap’ life is getting a bit much.
Written by Ollie Aplin
Designer, writer and co-founder of MindJournal. On a mission to help guys feel more, do more and be more. Has a sweet tooth and often uses words that don't exist. Start a conversation email@example.com